Comments on: While I’m On The 2nd Annual Low-Carb Cruise This Week, Here’s 50 New Blogs For You To Check Out http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/while-im-on-the-2nd-annual-low-carb-cruise-this-week-heres-50-new-blogs-for-you-to-check-out/3384 To educate, encourage, and inspire the world to start low-carb living Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:39:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Dana http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/while-im-on-the-2nd-annual-low-carb-cruise-this-week-heres-50-new-blogs-for-you-to-check-out/3384#comment-13579 Dana Wed, 28 Jan 2009 01:42:57 +0000 http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/?p=3384#comment-13579 Well, here's another liberal female (sort of--my beliefs are in flux, but you will never find me weighing in on the conservative or neoconservative ultra-right-wing Christian side of any debate unless there's no way out of it), but I like your blog, as long as you don't go around saying silly, sexist, uncalled things about women. We're not dumb, we're not inherently irrational, we're just as moral as men are, etc., blah blah. OK, that's out of the way. I am fine with the idea of fat acceptance IN THE SENSE OF not shaming people because they are overweight. Shaming people backfires more often than not and you know, it's just plain rude. I tend to reserve the tactic for people who I think are lost causes, because they are so hung up on behaving in a way I perceive as evil that there's no way back for them. And it is more an expression of my disdain for them than a belief on my part that shaming them will change them. So why shame fat people? Why call them names? Why make assumptions about what they're doing and not doing with themselves healthwise? At best you'll get an earful about how they just lost 100 pounds. (There's a show on cable TV, I think, about a woman who started out at almost 700 and she's down below 400 now! No gastric bypass either! If you saw her on the street and didn't know who she was...) At worst you'll turn them off to the entire notion of eating healthy. And it's not like they don't constantly get conflicting information about what healthy eating means, OR they hear the same tired crap all the time about eating less and not eating fat. That means self-starvation--who wants that? So they give up. I was lucky. I found the info I needed. You were lucky. You found it too. Give these other people some time. It is a journey each person must undertake for themselves. It's like when I took my daughter to the playground when she was two and three years old and she would ask me for help climbing something on the equipment. You can't help someone climb; that's a recipe for an accident. And I would tell her that. "I can't help you, baby. You have to move your feet and grab the railings yourself." Now she's four and climbs all over the place like a little monkey. Losing weight is like that. Yelling at someone or moving their feet for them (by bullying them or any other tactic) NEVER WORKS. On top of that you trigger whatever bad self-esteem issues they had to begin with, if any, which just sets them further back. Hate to sound like a darned commie pinko hippie, but love really is the answer in this case. No bullying. Just give them space. They will figure it out, or they won't--it is their life. Well, here’s another liberal female (sort of–my beliefs are in flux, but you will never find me weighing in on the conservative or neoconservative ultra-right-wing Christian side of any debate unless there’s no way out of it), but I like your blog, as long as you don’t go around saying silly, sexist, uncalled things about women. We’re not dumb, we’re not inherently irrational, we’re just as moral as men are, etc., blah blah. OK, that’s out of the way.

I am fine with the idea of fat acceptance IN THE SENSE OF not shaming people because they are overweight. Shaming people backfires more often than not and you know, it’s just plain rude. I tend to reserve the tactic for people who I think are lost causes, because they are so hung up on behaving in a way I perceive as evil that there’s no way back for them. And it is more an expression of my disdain for them than a belief on my part that shaming them will change them.

So why shame fat people? Why call them names? Why make assumptions about what they’re doing and not doing with themselves healthwise? At best you’ll get an earful about how they just lost 100 pounds. (There’s a show on cable TV, I think, about a woman who started out at almost 700 and she’s down below 400 now! No gastric bypass either! If you saw her on the street and didn’t know who she was…) At worst you’ll turn them off to the entire notion of eating healthy. And it’s not like they don’t constantly get conflicting information about what healthy eating means, OR they hear the same tired crap all the time about eating less and not eating fat. That means self-starvation–who wants that? So they give up.

I was lucky. I found the info I needed. You were lucky. You found it too. Give these other people some time. It is a journey each person must undertake for themselves.

It’s like when I took my daughter to the playground when she was two and three years old and she would ask me for help climbing something on the equipment. You can’t help someone climb; that’s a recipe for an accident. And I would tell her that. “I can’t help you, baby. You have to move your feet and grab the railings yourself.” Now she’s four and climbs all over the place like a little monkey.

Losing weight is like that. Yelling at someone or moving their feet for them (by bullying them or any other tactic) NEVER WORKS. On top of that you trigger whatever bad self-esteem issues they had to begin with, if any, which just sets them further back. Hate to sound like a darned commie pinko hippie, but love really is the answer in this case. No bullying. Just give them space. They will figure it out, or they won’t–it is their life.

]]> By: Andy http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/while-im-on-the-2nd-annual-low-carb-cruise-this-week-heres-50-new-blogs-for-you-to-check-out/3384#comment-13550 Andy Tue, 27 Jan 2009 04:18:18 +0000 http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/?p=3384#comment-13550 Jimmy, Thanks for the link love. I'm just getting started, and don't have time to invest as much time, but keep up the good work. Hope your vacation was enjoyable. -Andy <i>Keep working at it, Andy! Blogging is a WHOLE LOT HARDER than it looks. --Jimmy</i> Jimmy,

Thanks for the link love. I’m just getting started, and don’t have time to invest as much time, but keep up the good work. Hope your vacation was enjoyable.

-Andy

Keep working at it, Andy! Blogging is a WHOLE LOT HARDER than it looks.

–Jimmy

]]> By: NewVision http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/while-im-on-the-2nd-annual-low-carb-cruise-this-week-heres-50-new-blogs-for-you-to-check-out/3384#comment-13519 NewVision Mon, 26 Jan 2009 02:31:32 +0000 http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/?p=3384#comment-13519 Hey Jimmy, Thank you for the shout out ! Hope you had a great time on your trip. ~Jo <i>It was my pleasure, Jo! Hopefully you got lots of hits this week. :) --Jimmy</i> Hey Jimmy,
Thank you for the shout out !
Hope you had a great time on your trip.
~Jo

It was my pleasure, Jo! Hopefully you got lots of hits this week. :)

–Jimmy

]]> By: Sean Preuss http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/while-im-on-the-2nd-annual-low-carb-cruise-this-week-heres-50-new-blogs-for-you-to-check-out/3384#comment-13486 Sean Preuss Sat, 24 Jan 2009 22:07:24 +0000 http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/?p=3384#comment-13486 Jimmy, I'm impressed! With all the work on your blog and all of the reading you do, how do you have time to find all of these people? Sean Preuss www.health-actualization.blogspot.com <i>I'm always keeping my eyes peeled, Sean. GREAT WORK!!! --Jimmy</i> Jimmy,

I’m impressed! With all the work on your blog and all of the reading you do, how do you have time to find all of these people?

Sean Preuss
http://www.health-actualization.blogspot.com

I’m always keeping my eyes peeled, Sean. GREAT WORK!!!

–Jimmy

]]> By: Kelly W http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/while-im-on-the-2nd-annual-low-carb-cruise-this-week-heres-50-new-blogs-for-you-to-check-out/3384#comment-13479 Kelly W Sat, 24 Jan 2009 15:51:33 +0000 http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/?p=3384#comment-13479 Ok....you can come back ANYTIME now! lol I really miss not seeing you here and reading your blog! Hope you had a great time, and that Christine is feeling better!! Kelly W. <i>THANKS Kelly! I'm glad to be back and had a GREAT time on the cruise. Christine had a rough week with her shoulder pain, but we made do with it the best we could. Hopefully she has some great memories to cherish despite having her arm in a sling all week. --Jimmy</i> Ok….you can come back ANYTIME now! lol I really miss not seeing you here and reading your blog! Hope you had a great time, and that Christine is feeling better!!

Kelly W.

THANKS Kelly! I’m glad to be back and had a GREAT time on the cruise. Christine had a rough week with her shoulder pain, but we made do with it the best we could. Hopefully she has some great memories to cherish despite having her arm in a sling all week.

–Jimmy

]]> By: Robin Plan http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/while-im-on-the-2nd-annual-low-carb-cruise-this-week-heres-50-new-blogs-for-you-to-check-out/3384#comment-13420 Robin Plan Thu, 22 Jan 2009 22:59:29 +0000 http://livinlavidalowcarb.com/blog/?p=3384#comment-13420 Hi Jimmy Thanks so much for adding my new blog, Real Food And More to this amazing list of blogs! I've spent a lot of time reading these blogs this week - Thank you for sharing! Talk soon, Robin <i>GREAT JOB with the blog, Robin! It was my pleasure to feature it here this week. :) --Jimmy</i> Hi Jimmy

Thanks so much for adding my new blog, Real Food And More to this amazing list of blogs! I’ve spent a lot of time reading these blogs this week – Thank you for sharing!

Talk soon,
Robin

GREAT JOB with the blog, Robin! It was my pleasure to feature it here this week. :)

–Jimmy

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